Here's How to Get Back into Flow

We’ve all been there—feeling stuck, unmotivated, and questioning ourselves as though life is passing us by while we remain motionless. In our achievement-driven and "need-to-be-busy" society, this feeling can be particularly heavy. The pressure to keep moving, progressing, and achieving is relentless. We’re conditioned to believe that success lies in constant motion: aiming for the next promotion, ticking off the next goal, or achieving the next big milestone, filling our diaries and personal time with non-stop activity and "doing" something.

Not doing, not being busy, not thriving is classified as being lazy. We compare ourselves to others and we get the feeling of "being behind" in life. None of that is actually true. But I know the feeling. I have certainly noticed those thoughts previously and they didn't help at all.

But what if this need to always be on the move isn’t coming from you, but solely from your negative inner voice, the one you wouldn't choose and the one I call the "scripted self"?

This "voice" (beliefs or stories we keep telling ourselves on repeat) is not the one we would choose, we have inherited it and have adapted to it. It thrives on comparison, judgment, and the false idea that if you’re not progressing, you’re falling behind. In reality, though getting unstuck often doesn’t require a grand leap forward or tackling big changes and we certainly don't need have everything figured out in a grand plan.

It starts with a simple pause. It starts with permitting ourselves to breathe, allowing ourselves to let go. Just surrender to what is in the moment and getting comfortable with it.

Feeling stuck often paralyses us, because we tend to have tunnel vision and focus only one on thing:

How do I progress?

Where is the answer I am looking for?  

What is it I am supposed to do?

And with that we continue to look for clues and solutions outside of ourselves.

When actually, most of the time the answers are already within us, if we would only know where to look and what questions to ask ourselves. The main thing is that we want to SIMPLIFY, eliminate that awful feeling and the pressure we are putting ourselves under.

"When you change the way you look at things,

the things you look at change"

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And here are my favourite how-to "unstuck" yourself and rediscover your flow prompts:

1. Realize You’re Exactly Where You Need to Be

Ohh, that one takes a little bit getting used to. I sense your inner rebel (aka Script) not liking to hear this. But trust that your life path is unfolding as it should. You don’t have to force or rush anything and you are certainly not behind. But take this moment to take stock: what is it you are here to learn?

2. Life Isn’t a Race

I kept rushing through life until my 40’s without realising. Somehow I was programmed from early on to “get on with it” and to “hurry up” and it was exhausting. I bet you did too. Let me tell you, there is no first at the finish line, you are not in competition with anyone. Most of all, your worth isn’t defined by how quick and how much you achieve. The script might tell you otherwise, but befriending the idea that life is about the journey and enjoying it, not the destination, is freeing.

3. Silence Your Inner Critic

That critical voice in your head? It’s not on your team. Recognize it for what it is—a script, not the truth. Instead, choose to support yourself with affirming thoughts and actions. This simple shift can open doors to new possibilities. Practice choosing the exact opposite of what the script says and see how that shifts you feeling “sh*te” to feeling “Hell, yes”.

4. Let Go of Rigid Thinking

Letting go doesn’t mean giving up; it means releasing the need to control every outcome. Are you holding onto the belief that you must always be seen as the “doer” to be valued? That belief might be holding you back more than you realize.

5. Embrace Stillness

We often avoid stillness because it feels awkward and unproductive, but stillness is where clarity and creativity thrive. It’s where you’ll receive those flashes of insight—or what I like to call "cosmic faxes." Create space for quiet moments, and trust what emerges.

6. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful tool for shifting your mindset. You don’t have to feel grateful to start practicing it. Simply reflecting on what’s good in your day, week and life in general right now can help you feel more grounded and less stuck. We often dismiss what we already have, taking everything and everyone for granted, glancing into the future trying to find satisfaction there.

7. Visualize and Plan Small Steps

Allow yourself to dream again. "How do you want to live?" "What do you want to experience?" "How do you want to feel in your life?" Use a journal or planner to visualize and getting clear on what it is that you really want. Then plan small next steps. Simply imagining the progress can spark momentum, and small, tangible actions can lead to big breakthroughs.

8. Pay attention to your inner dialogue

You are the first one hearing your own words. Be careful how you speak to yourself and others. Your words leave an imprint, especially if you keep repeating to yourself "I am stuck, I am stuck, I am stuck...". Guess, what, all you here is 'stuck' and the feeling manifests itself and with it overwhelm too.

9. Get comfortable with where you're at

Unfortunately our upbringing within our societal norms have taught us that we must always thrive forward, hence we face a constant restlessness in order to prove ourselves. But no one is thinking less of you if you allow yourself to be content, comfortable and proud with where you are right now. Give yourself permission to accept and acknowledge your journey thus far. I have no doubt it has been a brilliant one.

10. Reconnect with Your True Self

Underneath the noise of the negative chatter, the scripted self lies your true self—the part of you longing to step out of the shadows. Take time to listen to that inner whisper. Use it to create your "NorthStar," a personal mantra that aligns with your authentic values and guides your life. Meaning, really listen to yourself and your needs and nurture those.

Realising that feeling stuck isn’t a permanent state is a big relief and puts us at ease. But it can also be a signal that something needs attention or re-direction.

By pausing, quieting the noise, and turning inward, you’ll find the clarity and confidence to move forward in alignment with who you truly are. Ask yourself: "What do I need to let go of?", "What is no longer serving me?", "What do I need more of?"

Often it isn’t a big change that is required but one tiny step which first sparks in your mind’s eye.

Remember: You don’t have to have it all figured out today. Take one small step, then another. The flow will follow…